the role of the wife

Posted by Doug on Jan 5, 2012 in ALL POSTS, Most Recent Posts | 4 comments

BEFORE YOU READ THIS you may want to consider reading my post titled, “Marriage is Heaven on Earth.” It will possibly offer some foundation and clarity. And so you know, I challenge the men in, “The Role of The Husband.”

That said – let’s get to the one word everyone is waiting for, “submit.”
Come on – you know your waiting for it.

Men are hoping that I not only say it but bring new light to it.

Woman, you’re almost daring me to use the “S” word so you can reply, “I KNEW IT! He’s just another control freak.”

What to expect:
1) I am a bit of a control freak – most men are
2) Ladies you are correct – I am going to say SUBMIT
3) Men – you may not love me at all when I get to that word

Ultimately, it is the role of the wife to demonstrate,in a visible form,
the submissive relationship that Christ’s Bride is to have toward Him.
It is a choice of her will.

Ladies, how bad can this really be? After all, your husband is loving you as Christ loved His Church…right? He is the picture of love and the essence of Godliness. If Mary Poppins had a male counterpart , you husband would be that man. Your guy is always looking for ways to improve his relationship with The Lord. He’s great with the children and takes much pleasure in doing his share of the house work. Flowers and Hallmark cards are a norm for you. (The cards always include a personal note and the key points underlined – some double underscored.)

He’s a hard working man your husband is – even catching a little OT when he can so that you can have that vacation of your dreams. To much overtime? Oh No… that would keep him from your presence – so he keeps a good work-life balance. NEVER does he lose his temper…always the gentleman. Shivery is alive and well in your relationship! I bet you can’t remember the last time you had to open your car door for yourself. Speaking of which…certainly you have the nicer car in the family. Oh – and he prefers snuggling over sex…but he’s an artist at the latter

HOW DIFFICULT WOULD IT BE FOR A WOMAN TO SUBMIT TO THAT GUY?

Sadly, most of us are not “that” guy. Non-the-less it is the role of the wife to submit to the husband.
He is the head. It’s God’s order so therefore it is good for all concerned.

No one, including the Apostle Paul who penned the words in Ephesians 5:22, is suggesting that the woman is the lesser partner of the relationship. That would be the equivalent to reckoning Jesus as a lesser God. The word “submit” carries the idea of, “placing one self under another.” It’s a choice. But not only is submitting to the husband the will of God – it has purpose.

Above all things we men need to be respected. That’s one reason why we are so easily insulted when our wives ask us to, “stop and get directions.” WHAT? Are you implying we can’t find it the interstate? I can’t be trusted to complete the task? You need another man in your life to take care of you?

Now the women are thinking that we are being ridiculous when actually we are being “men.”
And may i add being a man in this society has uniques challenges.

Most woman are waiting for the husband to be the man that God expects of him – i will have to submit that this is true. But how does this relieve the woman of her responsibility? Ladies, it doesn’t. Just as the role of the husband is not conditional upon what the wife does or is doing, the wife too is answerable to God for her role in the relationship. No one is suggesting that she allows the husband to drag her off into sin. Nor are you to stand idle if there is a form of abuse in the home. For these things I suggest you get GODLY counsel and get it fast.

However, HE is the one that God is looking to for leadership in the home. How would you like to carry that responsibility? He is going to give an account for what he did or did not do. Also you wives need only to concern yourself with your relationship with Christ and not the husbands relationship with The Lord. The rules do not change for you no matter where the husband is as far as his relationship with Christ is concerned. If anything you will repel him all the more.

Finally, it os NOT the role of the wife to judge, slander, gossip, disrespect, or dishonor her husband anymore than she would Christ…or The Spirit would to the others in the Godhead.